Couples Therapy

“How I wish I could see the potential, the potential of me and you.
It’s like a book elegantly bound but in a language that you can’t read just yet.”
I Will Possess Your Heart – Death Cab for Cutie

What happened to that spark?

You know… that feeling of deep connection you used to have? Has the excitement faded to emptiness… from passion to something platonic?

Have you drifted away from each other such that you’re now worlds apart? Maybe spending quality time together only deepens your feelings of loneliness.

You’re probably asking yourself all kinds of questions…

Why am I always misunderstood?

Why doesn’t my partner appreciate anything I do?

And, even scarier…

Are we still compatible?

Are we still in love?

Is this relationship worth saving?

Relationships are like beautiful skyscrapers: They require a stable foundation and can take years to build. Often, things outside their control (or within their control) damage the foundation, and, over time, the building begins to sway.

If your relationship feels empty, lonely, or stagnant…

It may be time to consider couples counseling.

Are you carrying resentments, holding secrets from your partner, and longing for the intimacy you once had?

Are you wondering if miscommunication, stress, and infidelity are now the foundations of your once stable relationship?

You feel they don’t listen when you share about your day. They only pay attention to you in the bedroom.

They seem more interested in improving the house, focusing on hobbies, and spending time with their friends. You decide to give them space, focus more on volunteer work, distract yourself with the kids’ needs, and find other ways to get your needs met.

Why does your relationship always seem to come last?

You keep reminding yourself, “It wasn’t always like this!”

These days, couples are exhausted and overwhelmed more than ever. Most couples manage multiple life stressors on top of their relationship – older parents, kids, work responsibilities, and financial stress.

Let me guide you back to discovering what you once had in your hearts.

First, you’ll commit to doing the work of couples therapy.

You and your partner, together, commit to the work in couples therapy. Both you and your partner commit to showing up and being present for each session.

You’ll establish a firm foundation of love and trust.

We’ll begin by exploring what brought you to couples therapy. We’ll explore patterns of dysfunction and miscommunication, keeping your relationship stuck.

Each partner will have the space they need to create healthy dialogue, build trust, and re-create a strong foundation built on honesty.

You will feel real intimacy build… brick by brick

Seeing your partner for who they really are, hearing their words, honoring their presence. No more smiling, nodding, and faking it.

You’ll gain a powerful set of tools…

I use various treatment approaches in my work with couples, including Gottman’s Seven Principles, emotion-focused, and cognitive-behavioral therapies.

We’ll explore your unique love languages and use this information to unlock your potential in understanding each partner’s needs. It is essential to create space for learning to love repeatedly and embrace each other with creativity and a positive attitude.

You will learn to accept and acknowledge that you both have grown throughout your relationship. Now is the time to learn from one another with an open and honest heart, bringing down your walls and honoring your partner’s gifts.

Over time, your relationship shifts… You both set healthy boundaries, communicate effectively and deepen intimacy. You feel heard, your partner feels validated, and both parties are listening. Your relationship is thriving, not just surviving.

Embracing your partner holistically creates renewed intimacy, resulting in increased affection, more quality time, and a healthier sex life.

You’ll cultivate a new sense of connection…

Identify each partners’ triggers and learn how to put your relationship first.

Communicate assertively and implement active listening to get your needs met.

Enjoy greater levels of intimacy and a healthy, satisfying sex life.

Over time, by listening, loving, and opening your hearts to each other, that beautiful skyscraper can stand tall in the wind.

Ready to put a fire back in your relationship?

Stop going through the motions by simply “being” together.

Experience how it feels to truly “live” together in love.

You and your partner deserve that powerful spark that once effortlessly brought you into each other’s arms.

Ready to re-ignite your spark?

I am here for you. Reach out today for a free 20-minute initial consultation: (970) 639-0686.